If Your Relationship Doesn’t Have These 5 Things, It Needs To End

All right, Gen-Y, it’s time for a good, old-fashioned eye-opening to the real world of healthy and loving relationships

And I’m not talking about the relationships most of us are bombarded with on social media. We, as a generation, are too focused on “relationship goals” and Instagram likes to actually create long-lasting, healthy, happy relationships.

Dating has become a matter of public scrutiny. Just take a look at your Facebook feed.

I see more relationships ending in less than two months than “Happy Anniversary” posts anymore.

I think it’s because we are too focused on looks and material items rather than the actual important parts of a relationship — the ones that will lead to many, many years of “Happy Anniversary” posts in the future.

1. Your relationship should be freeing.

You should feel like you are the king or queen of the universe because the person you are with makes you feel that great. Your partner should be in constant support of you; you should feel like you are giving yourself to someone who truly wants to be the best for you.

Your relationship shouldn’t feel like you are suffocated. You shouldn’t feel like you are being held back from life experiences with your significant other. You shouldn’t have to feel like you are straying from your morals, opinions and beliefs for your significant other.

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2. Your relationship should be daring.

This is one I think people occasionally take the wrong way. I don’t mean daring in a bad way; your relationship should be your favorite adventure in life.

It should be an adventure that shows you places, feelings and thoughts you’ve never had before. It’s, ultimately, never ending and should constantly keep you excited about each day you spend together.

Your relationship shouldn’t feel daunting. It shouldn’t make you forget the adventures you had or stop you from enjoying your life. Focusing on your relationship should only serve to empower you; it should leave you feeling relaxed, not tired.

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3. Your relationship should be simple.

Relationships are ultimately made up of emotional and physical attraction. So, your relationship should be made up of little things that highlight those attractions — whether it be through gestures, words, gifts, touch — anything.

Your actions should make how much you care about each other all the clearer.

Your relationship shouldn’t be complicated; it shouldn’t leave you wondering if you care more about your partner than your partner cares for you, or vice versa.

You shouldn’t wonder if the little things are genuine, or even there.

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4. Your relationship should feel exciting.

Your relationship should leave butterflies in your stomach with every touch or sweet gesture — literally anything. You should feel breathless with every kiss, you should feel beautiful or handsome every time your partner stares at you.

Your relationship shouldn’t be uneasy. It shouldn’t make you bored; it shouldn’t make you feel average or unwanted.

When you enter into a relationship, it should only change you for the better. If that’s not the case, then this person probably isn’t the right one for you.

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5. Your relationship should be fun.

It seems like this may be the only thing Gen-Y knows in relationships, but I think we may have the wrong “fun” in mind. When I say “fun,” I mean to smile, laugh and talk with your partner more than anyone else.

Love should make you not care what people are thinking about you while you’re dancing around the streets. It should make you want to turn your phone off because you are having such a good time in the moment and you’ll remember it forever.

Your relationship shouldn’t be hard. It shouldn’t be so difficult that you spend your time texting friends and finding excuses not to see your partner. You shouldn’t be disappointed when you leave your partner — and you shouldn’t have to subtweet either.

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Choose love based on compatibility, not the hottest person getting the most likes on Instagram.

So, Gen-Y, stop obsessing over #RelationshipGoals and find someone who treats you like the Beyoncé you are.

If Your Relationship Doesn’t Have These 5 Things, It Needs To End

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What I Know For Sure About Marriage From Working In A Jewelry Store

Your average day at a jewelry store is pretty typical: People come in, look at pricey necklaces and earrings, take a long, hard look at their bank account and then head out.

Despite the mundane routine of my workday, there is always at least one purchase that stands out to me. There is at least one guy who comes in for an engagement ring.

Each and every one of these guys totally stand out to me because the look in their eyes can never be replicated. He’s so ready and excited, but he’s broke and totally unsure. This look totally changed everything I thought I knew about marriage.

I’m so used to listening to my girlfriends talk about their wedding Pinterest boards (yes, plural). They have everything picked out for their future. Their dresses are organized by designer, cakes aligned first by flavor then by decoration and rings upon rings upon rings.

We see the future; they see dollar signs. We feel elated; they feel like a disappointment.

Your Pinterest board makes your significant other feel like he has no say in what goes on your finger. Seriously, he feels really left out. While you think a ring is just a ring (the ring you’ve spent your whole life daydreaming about), he looks at it for what it truly is: a major commitment. And he wants in.

When he brings up engagement and asks what you like, for the love of all that is good and holy, don’t show him pictures or bombard him with links to your “dream ring.” Tell him details like, “I like emerald cut diamonds and white gold.” Then, trust him to pick out something beautiful.

Guys feel so good when they can FaceTime your parents and show them what they picked out. Working in a jewelry store has given me the luxury of seeing his face when they hold it in their hands and how their hands shake when they try to take a picture.

I’ve learned to get manicures so that my nails look good when I end up having to take the picture for them because their hands can’t settle down for a picture that’s in focus. I can tell you from experience the guys who go from a picture don’t have the same reaction as the guy who was able to pick it out himself.

Also, ladies, there are guys who end up designing the ring because they want it uniquely for their bride-to-be. Let him have his moment.

Do you have any idea how much that dream ring costs? Like, I know you look at it, and you’re like, “Well, it’s only $10,000. But, it’s totally perfect and will last me a lifetime.” If it’s out of his price range, it’s out of the question.

When you show him rings that are significantly beyond what he can afford, he feels like a failure to you before your engagement even begins. If he can only afford a ring for a few hundred dollars or even less, he’s going to avoid the topic of marriage altogether if he knows you want something more elaborate.

Just know that most married couples rarely stick with the same ring for their whole lives. Many of my customers come in specifically to find bigger and better rings for anniversaries. Some couples continuously add to their original ring until it’s flashier than anything else we have in store.

I had an elderly couple who told me they waited their whole lives to be able to afford a flashy ring, and now, at 70-something, they could finally manage it. It’s not even slightly about the ring. It’s about the thought, that he wanted to put a ring on it and that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you. You’ll eventually get that gorgeous ring, I promise.

Marriage shouldn’t be this huge, planned-out thing. Stop having this desire to control every aspect of it because when you do, it’s not as special. If you really want to marry this guy, you need to let him have some sort of say in your future.

As someone who works at the first step of the rest of your lives, the jewelry store, I can’t even tell you how much your BF wants in on your wedding planning.

What I Know For Sure About Marriage From Working In A Jewelry Store

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We Need To Stop Shaming Women For Taking Back Their Cheating Exes

Being cheated on is probably one of the most gut-wrenching experiences anyone could ever have. It leaves you with a whirlwind of emotion and fills you with a toxic, twisted adrenaline.

Cheating doesn’t just deprive you of the intimacy and comfort you have in the bedroom. The mistrust and hesitancy trickles through every crevice of the relationship. It robs you of your security, confidence and your faith. The only thing it doesn’t rob you of is your love for that person, as much as you’d like it to.

Cheating brings about emotional seasons.

There’s the shock season, in which you are so numb and unbelievably sick to your stomach that you feel like it couldn’t possibly be real life. The person cheating on you couldn’t possibly be the guy who was laying next to you last night, telling you how cute you look when your nose twitches just before you fall asleep.

Then there’s the sad season, in which you cry more than you do anything else and eat chocolate cupcakes for breakfast, lunch and dinner.

Then there’s the angry season, in which you throw all of his stuff in a bag and light it on fire while drinking a bottle of Pino with your best friends and listening to Carrie Underwood.

And then, there’s the “glow up.” This is when you tell yourself you don’t need him, you go to the gym/bars every day, you trade bagels in for green smoothies and you start rebounding. A lot. Some girls stay in this season, and more power to you. It’s a great one to be in.

But the next one doesn’t exist. Because the next phase is reality. That’s when the all the questions start to swirl in your head, and you crave the closure you truly deserve.

There’s this stigma and shame around women who take back the men who have cheated on them. Some of the words and phrases that come to mind are “weak,” “lack of self-respect,” “no morals” and “needs a man.” I’m here to say that’s complete and udder bullshit.

First of all, it takes a lot of courage to love someone completely in the first place. To truly let your guard down and let someone in is no easy feat. Most of the time, it’s a leap of faith. And that strength deserves some recognition.

Second, relationships are complex because as much as you merge into one being, you’re still individuals. You still have needs, wants, doubts and you still make your own mistakes. I’m not insinuating this is an excuse, but it is, at the very least, an explanation.

But the truth is, hating your significant other after their infidelity, resenting them, tearing them down to the level of devastation you feel – that’s the easy part.

The hard part? Forgiveness.

As easy as it may be to walk away, bash him to any and everyone, throw away all the memories and make a very aggressive subtweet about how much better off you are, it’s much harder to stick around and listen to reason.

You might think I’m crazy, but after having the “cheating” conversation — which consists of “Why?” “How long?” and “How could you?” — there might come a closeness that may have been lost in the hustle of everyday life.

Now, if the reasoning consists of something shallow and fuckboy-ish, then of course, walking away from the cheater is the best option. But sometimes in a relationship, you can become so distant from the person you may be attached to 24/7. Appreciation and conversation can be replaced by distraction and comfort. And when that happens, spirits start to stray. Once again, I’m not saying this is a valid excuse, but if you really care about someone, it’s worth hearing their side.

And once that conversation starts, you to see that distance sort of dissipate. You lose the feeling of certainty that you’ll never lose the person, and that is healthy. That feeling, which can be summed up as not taking someone for granted, is necessary for a flourishing friendship and relationship.

I’m not saying sacrificing your self-respect is some noble act. However, having a real conversation and offering forgiveness to someone who has shattered you shouldn’t be frowned upon, as it takes a great deal of strength and even more grace.

We Need To Stop Shaming Women For Taking Back Their Cheating Exes

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My Ex Made Me Sign A Relationship Contract, And I’d Never Do It Again

Now now, I can already see your horrified expression as you eagerly and curiously await to find out more. “He did what?” you may be exclaiming at the screen, and yes, you read it right. My ex made me sign a relationship contract with an actual real-life witness.

Let me explain: My ex and I met under unusual circumstances. We started out as platonic friends and gradually, over the course of one summer, I ended up in a relationship with one of his close childhood friends whom I’d met through him.

It quickly ended, and I found myself drawn back to the comfort of my friend and him to me. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other. The attraction was there, but due to to my own recent breakup, I assumed it to be nothing more than a casual “friends with benefits” situation.

That is, until one night in a bar, he got so unbelievably jealous when a strange man tried to dance with me that it almost resulted in a fist fight. The next time we went out again, I casually joked that I could dance with whomever I damn well pleased, and he’d keep his temper under control if he ever wished to see me again. Two vodkas down, and I was feeling like the fierce and sassy independent woman I like to think I am.

He apologized and explained it was just his protectiveness over me. My response?

“I can do whatever I want, it’s not as if I’ve signed a contract.”

And how did he respond? He quickly drew up one on his phone there and then in the middle of a crowded bar. I laughed. I was flattered, and as I certainly liked him back, I agreed to be his girlfriend then and there on the spot.

The next morning, as I awoke to my cute new boyfriend, he got out my laptop to make it official. I thought he was joking. I thought the contract on the phone was a cute gesture, but he wasn’t playing around.

He wrote out an official “Relationship Contract,” complete with lists of dos and don’ts. Sex regulations. Date nights. Christmas and birthday expectations. I couldn’t believe what was happening. I’d always known him to be a little bit controlling, but this was ridiculous.

It stated:

1. We agree not to engage in any sexual activity or physical pleasure with anyone other than each other. Hugging others is allowable, so long as there are no erections present.

2. We agree to keep no secrets from one another. Should one ask for any information, it must be given truthfully and without hesitation. We agree to talk every day via text message, phone or face to face, regardless of a) fights or anger and b) laziness.

3. We agree to see each other at least two times a week depending on location to. This may entail the following: movie watching, dinner, coffee, sleeping, drinking, hanging with others, etc. Commitments made to careers may occasionally impede. If that is the case and it is absolutely necessary, once a week will be acceptable.

4. We agree to share intercourse at least once a day unless distance or the female partner’s period impedes with such activities.

5. We agree to practice safe sex. If impregnation occurs, both partners agree to consider all options unless it was previously planned or a mutual agreement is met.

6. We agree that presents are mandatory on: birthdays, Valentine’s Day, Christmas and — if mutually agreed — anniversaries.

7. We agree not to intentionally argue with or pick fights with one another.

8. We agree that if the night is spent together, whoever is the first to rise the morning after must prepare or retrieve coffee for the both to enjoy in bed together.

9. We agree to try to make each other happy and always help one another to the best of our ability.

10. We agree that if the contract is terminated, we will still remain friends, given that no partners violated clause one.

I was in shock and utter disbelief at the situation. I kept expecting him to burst into a fit of laughter and exclaim, “Gotcha!” But no, this wasn’t a joke. There was no hidden camera, and as far as I’m aware, “Punk’d” hasn’t made a new episode in a few years.

So we printed out the contract and signed, with a witness signature from my housemate to make it feel even more real and intimidating.

Maybe I had already ignored two majorly obvious warning signs, his jealous temper and his controlling nature, but regardless, I progressed with the relationship hopeful. And the contract? Well, it worked for a while. We saw each other regularly. We talked even when we fought. Our sex life was more than acceptable, and I enjoyed nice coffee most mornings in bed.

It shouldn’t have been a shock to me that he broke the contract first. He tried to seek forgiveness with the purchase of a new Zara handbag (I must have missed this part of the contract), but for the best, the relationship didn’t work out.

Maybe in an ideal world and in a less controlling environment, a relationship contract may work. It could save a lot of stupid and petty arguments. But, it won’t work a miracle.

Relationships take work, time and effort, and yes, a contract may be nice to fall back on. But nothing is ever set in stone. So maybe it didn’t work out that time. But, I’m hopeful for the next time round.

And in case you were wondering, no, we didn’t remain friends after the contract was terminated. He did violate cause one.

My Ex Made Me Sign A Relationship Contract, And I’d Never Do It Again

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Here’s How To Have ‘Love Sex’ Without Actually Being In Love

So what is love sex, you so kindly ask? Love sex is when sex and love are gorgeously interconnected. It’s when you let yourself feel feelings when you’re having sex, rather than using sex as a druggy way to numb your feelings.

Some people call love sex “making love,” but that term makes me want to crawl out of my skin and run for the hills, skinless. Some creepy older hippy dude with a stench so pungent it could clear a room once creepily whispered, “I want to make love to you” right inside my ear (so close it tickled) when I was having a bad trip at some ecstasy party when I was 15.

Now, whenever I hear the term “make love,” I have to fight the urge to vomit all over the floor and am flooded with unpleasant memories of pseudo bohemian boys hiding behind bad poetic cliches as a way to touch young girls who were too high on drugs to realize what’s going on. So yeah, love sex will do.

I ran away from love sex for a really long time because it made me feel vulnerable, and I was terrified to feel vulnerable, especially when it came to sex. Some of it is from trauma, some of it is from me being disconnected from my body from my eating disordered youth, some of it is from leftover gay weirdo kid shame and some of it is just from being a girl in this screwed-up world.

But yeah, the moment sex became remotely tender, I pulled back and disconnected. Sometimes I simply stopped it, and other times I just pushed my partner to become aggressive with me so I didn’t have to feel the scary feelings. Being in physical pain is a great way to numb emotions that feel too overwhelming and raw and real.

But all that self-destructive stuff works, until it doesn’t work anymore. Until someone breaks through and teaches you that connecting sex and love isn’t gross and weird, but actually exhilarating. In fact, when you toss feelings into the sex mix, it can be hotter and more exciting than all the handcuffs in the world.

A reader wrote me the other day and asked if I thought it was possible that she could be having “love sex” without being “in love.” She was sleeping with a woman she knew she wasn’t in love with, but pretty sure she was having love sex with her. She wasn’t sure if it was even possible. I told her I think it is.

I mean how often are we ever even really in love? I think that being in real, true love is a holy, but rare event that happens only a few times in a lifetime, if we’re lucky. I don’t think people who fall in love constantly are really falling in love. They’re falling in love with ideas, they’re confusing the power of lust with with the power of love and they’re falling in love with the fantasy they’re projecting on to another human being.

But real, stripped-down, “I’ve seen you at your breaking point, and I still want to wrap my scrawny arms around you and kiss you into oblivion” love, now that’s as rare as a Chanel sample sale open to the general public.

So how can we mess with feelings, when we don’t have loving feelings toward the person we’re screwing, when we’re not actually screwing them?

Two bodies can engage in their own intimate relationship with each other, one that’s separate from our brains and minds. It’s possible to let your guard down and communicate with your partner through sex, communicate all kinds of vulnerable things without wanting to do it verbally.

The guard can come back up when the clothes come on. You can feel a slew of feels in the bedroom, when your bodies are intertwined and you’re passionately breathing into each other’s mouths and you can leave those intense feelings in the sweaty, over-sexed cotton sheets.

Sometimes two bodies have an emotional connection, but the brains inside of those bodies are disconnected. If you’re a passionate person who is in touch with her body, you can feel a lot of things when you’re caught up in the heat of the sexual moment. You don’t need to force an emotional connection with a person, just because you have a strong sexual connection with him or her.

There are so many different kinds of relationship dynamics, and sex and love are so wildly complicated that I don’t think there are any cold rules to any of it. Every rule I’ve imposed on myself I’ve broken.

So I say if you’re feeling it and your girl instincts aren’t questioning it, it’s always real. That’s all, kittens. Until next time.

Here’s How To Have ‘Love Sex’ Without Actually Being In Love

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6 Things You Need To Ask Yourself Before Sending That Nude Photo

By now, we all know what the term “sexting” refers to, but if you don’t, it’s sending nude or scandalous photos of oneself to lovers, hopeful lovers, etc.

We also know sexting can be pretty risky business, especially for those who under the age of 18. Parents have cringed over teen sexting scandals, and legal proceedings have taken place with good reason. It’s also something that breaks a lot of barriers in vulnerability and privacy. And overall, it’s looked at as something very negative and receives tons of judgement.

However, despite legalities and privacy concerns, studies concluded 9 percent of adult cell phone users have sent a sext, and 20 percent have received a sext. This information definitely suggests less judging and more educating.

Instead of judging you for sending sexts, I’d rather provide you with six questions to ask yourself before you actually send that photo:

1. Why do they want the photos?

This may seem like an odd question to ask, but in certain circumstances, it could determine your feelings about sending a nude photo. Have you been flirty with this person, and sexting isn’t an off-the-wall act? Or, did this acquaintance randomly ask?

If it’s random, chances are, they don’t just want the photos for themselves. This leads us to question two.

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2. Is this person trustworthy?

Most women and men who send nude photos will want the recipient to be trustworthy and feel confident the photo will only remain between the two parties. If you feel this won’t be the case, don’t send the photo.

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3. Am I comfortable with what is being asked of me?

If you have a specific request that makes you a little uncomfortable, it’s OK to compromise or deviate. For instance, if you’re being asked for a completely nude photo, but you’re not comfortable doing that, leave your bra and/or panties on. That can be equally as hot.

Besides, you should make them work for it. Sometimes playing hard to get is a good tactic.

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4. Face or no face?

This is more of a preference, but a decision that’s up to you as the sender. Do you include your face in the photo or not?

Not featuring your face makes it less likely you’d be identified if the photo were to be seen by unintended eyes. It also could make you feel better about taking the photo. If you aren’t 100 percent confident in your body (we’ve all been there) or in your relationship status with the person on the other end, don’t feel like you have to include your face in the shot.

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5. Am I sending it for them or for me?

There’s a difference between sending a nude photo because you’re really into someone and sending a photo to someone you want to like you. Being naked isn’t necessarily going to make you closer. Even if you simply want a bit of attention, the main reason you should be sending a nude photo is because you want to, not because you’re trying to appease someone else.

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6. Do I want to?

The absolute most important answer to give yourself is whether or not you actually want to send a nude photo. It’s your body and your privacy on the line. Literally, no matter the reason, if you don’t want to send it, you don’t have to. If the intended recipient gets mad, maybe they aren’t worth it, anyway.

Like consenting to being sexual with someone in person, sending a nude photo is very personal and can vary from person to person. Some may choose to only send nude photos to significant others. Some will choose to send one to hookups and acquaintances. Some may even choose to never send any kind of sext message.

Don’t let pressure make your decision for you because it’s ultimately your decision.

6 Things You Need To Ask Yourself Before Sending That Nude Photo

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This Is How Your Relationship Status Affects Who You Find Attractive

No, this isn’t going to be some mushy study about how you find your significant other so incredibly dreamy that everyone else on the planet is an ugly monster in comparison. But a new study has found that your relationship status actually does have an effect on the types of people you find attractive.

Apparently who you find attractive as a single person is different from who you find attractive as a person in a relationship. The study, recently published by Frontiers in Psychology, found that people in relationships are more likely to be attracted to people who look like them. While for single people, the opposite seems to be true.

Dr. Jitka Lindová of Charles University in the Czech Republic and her team found this out by showing a group of university students, some in relationships and some single, a series of photographs of people of the opposite sex and having them rate their attractiveness. The photos were manipulated to either look similar or dissimilar to the students in question.

The study found that single students rated the images of people who looked nothing like them as sexy and attractive, while people in relationships were more interested in the images of people who were manipulated to look just like them.

Lindová believes this could actually be a biological relationship maintenance strategy. How so? Well, partners who look less like us are actually more genetically suitable. Lindová interprets these findings to mean that, perhaps, our brains suppress the attractiveness perception mechanisms that help us find genetically suitable partners when we are in romantic relationships.

This study is actually a pretty big deal as it is one of the first one to observe how people’s relationship statuses affect who they find attractive. More research in this field could have huge biological and sociological implications.

This Is How Your Relationship Status Affects Who You Find Attractive

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A Hippy Girl’s Guide To Getting Over A Breakup

A terrible breakup can leave you heartbroken and prone to making bad decisions. It’s natural and understandable.

Chances are, you want a way out of your current state of misery. Luckily, time is an excellent healer. But when time just isn’t soothing your wounds, sometimes a natural reconnection to the earth can ground you.

If you’re looking for advice on how to recover after your relationship has ended, some good hippy soul-searching may be the path to ease your spirits.

1. Get in touch with nature.

If you’re hurting and you feel like life is completely meaningless, you need to reorient yourself. Sometimes, reconnecting to nature can remind you how full, rich and diverse life is, and how not alone you are in the world. This can mean a lot of things.

An easy way to bring nature home is to start growing a succulent. Or rather, start wearing a succulent. (It doesn’t actually have to be a succulent; any plant will do.) Succulent jewelry has become a common fad because care instructions are often easy, and the jewelry is beautiful to look at. A small, new decoration-boasting plant you’re caring for can be a great mood-booster.

Another great trick that involves growing life? Kombucha. This fermented tea, which people are increasingly learning how to make at home, provides a variety of benefits for your health, both physically and mentally. In particular, the tea can provide mood stability, critical after heartbreak.

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2. Wash away the bad thoughts.

A good, relaxing bath with some DIY, all-natural bath bombs can provide immense relief and joy to a broken heart. Baths themselves are also known to provide emotional relief, particularly when you’re feeling lonely.

The warmth and comfort of a bath can be soothing, and incorporating a few fun products like bath bombs just bring all the more enjoyment into your bath time. Consider one or two baths a week until you’re in a better place emotionally.

In a similar vein, bath time is also the perfect opportunity to light some aromatherapy candles or various oil diffusers which can add to your relaxation. These work because smells trigger memory, and using natural scents, such as grass or flowers, reminds us of carefree childhoods playing in meadows. It’s a world away from the pain you are suffering right now.

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3. Get in touch with others.

Nothing is worse for heartbreak than isolating yourself. Rather than wallowing alone, go out into the world. Meet other people. Find other lives and stories to share.

One of my personal favorite experiences was when a friend dragged me out to a drum circle soon after a breakup. The music and life of the event made me feel a little more connected to everyone there, and the chance to make several new friends also reinvigorated me.

If a drum circle isn’t your thing, consider going on a girls’ night out with your female friends. It’ll get you reconnected to your friends, your gender and yourself.

Spend time bathing in the moonlight when the clouds are clear, or sign along loudly to Joni Mitchell songs. Expending the energy will do you good.

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4. Get all your bad emotions out.

Collect your ex’s love letters, memos and notes. Gather up all the dolls he gave you, the sweater he loaned you and never got back and the photos you have, and place them in a fire in your backyard and burn them. Bonfires are rejuvenating and cathartic.

After you’ve lit all your ex’s things on fire and watched them turn to ash, go for a run. Sweat out your toxic past, and burn all your anger as a form of energy.

If you’re not a runner, yoga is an excellent physical exercise that can exert your muscles and help your mental clarity and emotions. In fact, yoga has long been respected as an effective tool and natural anti-depressant. It can help reduce depression and anxiety, and it soothes the effects of traumatic experiences, including a bad ending to a relationship.

Let your body release the stress and negativity of your former relationship. Rather than letting it weigh you down, get it out.

Soon, you won’t remember your ex. A few natural, healthy remedies for healing heartbreak is all it takes to put you on your way to emotional recovery and back to knowing where you belong in the world.

A Hippy Girl’s Guide To Getting Over A Breakup

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These 18 Couples Reveal What Really Ruined Their Relationships

Ever wondered what ends relationships? I mean, obviously just one thing is not usually going to end an entire relationship. More often than not, it’s a culmination of things that build up until you just can’t take it anymore.

But what’s the one thing that takes you to that breaking point? The one thing that made you decide that all of the other breakups and makeups were just a waste of your time and it’s time to move on and find someone new?

That has always interested me. Especially because it’s usually something small. After years and years together, one small thing really can have the power to ruin everything and that has always fascinated me. Like what one thing could possibly have been so bad that you were ready to throw it all away and walk out?

Well, apparently it can range anywhere from (**SPOILER ALERT**) polyamory to being too close to your family to the military to his mom to finding God. And that’s not even the half of it.

Read along as these 18 brave couples anonymously confess exactly what it is that ruined their relationships.

It’s as juicy as it sounds, you guys. I PROMISE.

He became an Uber driver.

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We got a pet together.

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He was in debt.

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I was too protective.

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I didn’t know how to communicate.

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I was anxious.

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He was addicted to porn.

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I resent him for not proposing.

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He is obsessed with his computer game.

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He stays up all night.

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I moved in with him.

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He was paranoid and needed control.

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I started seeing her every day.

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Religion made him an angrier person.

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We tried polyamory.

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The military was easier than our relationship.

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It was my boyfriend’s mother.

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I was too close to my family.

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These 18 Couples Reveal What Really Ruined Their Relationships

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I Was ‘The Other Woman,’ But I Ignored All The Signs

Infidelity happens all the time. As unfortunate as it is, it happens.

We hear about spouses, boyfriends and girlfriends cheating on their significant others all the time. And whether or not anyone knows about it, it sucks. It especially sucks if you’re on the other side, the object of the cheating.

I recently found out that I’m that person. I’m “the side chick,” the other woman.

What had started out as occasional texting and major flirting with a guy I had just met developed into a full-blown friends with benefits situation. In the beginning, of course, I wanted more. Typical, right?

There’s always that one person who falls harder. And, yep, I got the bad luck on my side for this one. “I caught feelings like a damn amateur.”

When I started to notice that something was “off” between us, I thought I was just being led on. And, typical me, I was attempting to hold on to something that wasn’t there (a common theme in my dating life). After two months of talking, texting and a little too much online stalking, I figured out I wasn’t the only girl in his life.

I would say judging and investigating are among some of my strongest assets, and I was almost positive he had a “someone.” But at the same time, I thought “Am I just over analyzing this?” There wasn’t enough evidence to be definitive.

It took me a little while to come to terms with what I had found and to justify why it was OK for me. Again, I was just trying to hold on to something. Just as in the stages of grief, I was in denial at first. Then came anger.

I’m a firm believer that cheating is unacceptable, but I also wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt because that’s just who I am. (And yes, I thought my bitter skepticism could’ve been wrong.) So, I did; I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

But really, I should have seen it earlier on because I’m smarter than that. He used the excuse of working long hours, six days a week, as a way to “politely” dismiss himself from any obligation of really getting to know me. And it quickly excused me from his house after our encounters.

I still had a feeling that something was up, but I chose to ignore it. I didn’t let it deter me.

I accepted there was a chance he could have a girlfriend, but I also accepted that either way, this was what I was tolerating. So, I let our little “fling” continue. I realized that what was best for me, at the time, was to stop worrying about the future, put aside the wishful thinking and just live in the moment.

I needed to be present and enjoy the moment I was in. It was then that I actually began to enjoy myself without any expectations. It was freeing, really.

“Don’t think, just do” became my daily mantra. So, I did just that. While trying to push down the recurrence of the doubts in my mind, I let him continue to pursue me. I let him use me and use his words to string me along. I held on to his promises as he held on to me.

What’s crazy is that while I knew what was happening, I was oddly OK with it. I realized it was never going to be what I wanted it to be. But, silly me enjoyed the attention and the spontaneity of “living in the moment.” I gave in and allowed this person to use me because I was being blinded in the moment.

But let’s get to the point here. The real kicker, you ask? The moment I really knew I was the side chick? I was at his house one day, pretending to freshen up in the bathroom when I decided to do some more of my nosey investigating.

“Now is my chance,” I thought. So, it was then that I found a box of tampons in his bathroom drawer. And to see that little blue box sitting there, so innocently, was the threatening proof I was looking for. This time it was tangible.

I couldn’t believe what I had seen. I had given my whole self to this person, and now I knew that I had made a huge mistake. The power of intuition right? I knew the whole time. I was just choosing to ignore it, to pretend like it wasn’t reality.

I always fall for the ones who don’t want me, the ones who pretend, the ones with hidden motives. I get let down, then wonder why. At first, I didn’t understand why things like this kept happening to me.

But now, looking at it clearly, I see that they weren’t doing it to me. It was me who was allowing this to happen. I was consciously allowing guys to walk all over me. I was giving permission to be used, and to be treated like I didn’t matter.

It’s crazy how your mind can play tricks on you. Your own mind can make you think the things you want so badly are what’s best for you, when they’re so clearly not. I know these types of experiences are going to make for the best life lessons. But honestly, I’m tired of all these damn lessons I’m having to learn.

Things like this hurt like a wound. Of course, the blow is painful. Just like any other wound, each day that passes it will be a little sore. But eventually, we heal. The pain beings to cease, the skin heals over and a scar is left as evidence that it happened. And while it’s evidence of a wound, it’s just as much evidence that we survived.

Life is full of a lot of the unexpected. It’s a lot of the “I was wrong”, and “I should’ve known” and everything in between. But, the best thing you can do for yourself is accept those things for what they are and learn from them. Unfortunately, a lot of times, it takes an unpleasant experience to learn a lesson.

One day, things will workout for me. One day, I’ll have the guy I deserve. But for now, I won’t, and instead, I’ll focus on having faith in the future and in the unknown. For now, I’ll have to be OK with sleeping alone.

So the question is, what do I do now? Well, I just keep on living. I’m going to continue to “not think, and just do” because that’s how I believe life should be lived, by just living. I’ll let life come to me as it does, and I have to remind myself that I can’t control those around me, nor their actions or decisions.

What I can control is me, my life and whom I chose to be in it. And I won’t accept being someone’s second choice.

I Was ‘The Other Woman,’ But I Ignored All The Signs

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This Elderly Couple Died Within 3 Hours Of Each Other While Holding Hands

LOVE IS REAL, YOU GUYS. If my story yesterday of a guy finding love playing Pokemon Go didn’t already convince you of that, let me give you another example.

George and Ora Lee Rodriguez proved that maybe “The Notebook” isn’t just a stupid Nicholas Sparks movie that I may or may not bawl my eyes out to once a week, when they died hand in hand a week after their 58th wedding anniversary.

Yes, you read that correctly. 58th. As in just shy of 60. As in a whole lot longer than you and your very serious boyfriend.

The couple met and fell in love at a young age when he was a butcher at a local meat market. One day she was his customer and the rest is history. He was a Marine so the two wed when he came back from service.

They bought a house in San Antonio’s west side and from there, they got to watch what started off as a young love grow into a beautiful family.

I guess it was only natural that a couple who spent so much time living together would also die together in that same house where they made so many memories. Their daughter, Corina Martinez, said of their passing, “They were both here, we had them here at the house, in their hospital beds, right beside each other, they were holding hands.”

The couple was surrounded by children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. George passed away in his sleep, his hand in Ora Lee’s. She followed a short three hours later.

Their other daughter Georgia explained that their passing together probably would not have come as much of a shock to their mother, “my mother would always say that she was going to take my father or vice versa, and it did happen, we didn’t think it would, but it did.”

I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again: Love is real.

This Elderly Couple Died Within 3 Hours Of Each Other While Holding Hands

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7 Signs You Don’t Love Him, You Love The Idea Of Him

As humans, we are attracted to certain people and we can grow feelings without even realizing it. You don’t have to be in a relationship; you don’t even have to have had sex with the person.

But these feelings are not always reciprocated. This leads to heartbreak, overthinking, unanswered questions and confusion. He could appear perfect but still be wrong for you.

It’s easier to fill the void of rejection from one with the acceptance of another. Even if that other is a second choice, perhaps someone you left on the back burner. Sometimes we want love so bad that we choose quantity over quality.

In every living thing there is the desire for love

— D. H. Lawrence

But is what you’re feeling for this new person love? Or do you just love the idea of him? Here’s how to tell you love the idea of him.

1. You miss him only when you are alone.

You go the whole day without him crossing your mind. Then, as you get into bed, you are sitting there wishing there was someone next to you. Physical affection is important and no one should go too long without it.

If you are feeling sad or lonely, those are normal feelings. This does not necessarily mean that you miss him, but more likely means that you miss having someone. Someone to kiss, someone to touch, someone to feel with. Remember that feeling lonely is normal and temporary.

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2. You rationalize his behavior.

If he makes a rude comment, you overlook it. If he talks down to you, you ignore it. If he’s rude to your friends, you turn a blind eye. If he changes the subject, you let him.

There is a difference between being laid-back and delusional. Making excuses for someone doesn’t help you. If you make it a habit, you will let that irritability grow deep inside of you. You may end up losing it or even resenting the person. This hurts only you.

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3. You start to change your views or opinions.

You find yourself questioning your values and what you think matters. You morph your beliefs around his opinions. Perhaps your wants and desires have dwindled or diminished. Stay away from this behavior as this could lead to settling.

You don’t deserve to settle; you deserve the best. As frustrating as it can be when you don’t have it all, it is that much more fulfilling and worth the wait when you do.

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4. You often fantasize about future memories.

You find yourself imagining future trips and adventures. You focus more on the potential of what could be versus what actually is. Hope is a beautiful thing but ask yourself if you’ve gotten carried away. Is the fantasy better than the reality?

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5. There are things you want to change.

Would you want someone to change you? Probably not. If you do want to make some changes, this has to be something you discover and then figure out for yourself.

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6. You compare yourself to other couples.

You think if you just changed this one thing, you would be just as happy as that other couple you envy so much. However, most couples that use social media to shove their visual happiness through your corneas are the least happy.

This does not apply for all. However, in my experience, I have noticed the happier couples are usually the ones that are actually out being happy rather than the ones presenting repetitive updates and lengthy explanations of how happy they are.

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7. You begin to question what you deserve.

Stop that right now. I’ll say it again, you deserve the best in all aspects of life. Fight for the job, the love and the life you deserve. Never settle.

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary

— Steve Jobs

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This article was originally published on the author’s personal blog.

7 Signs You Don’t Love Him, You Love The Idea Of Him

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Here’s What Happened When 8 People Told Their Partners They Cheated

Being cheated on is one of the most painful things someone can experience. I don’t know firsthand, but I can only imagine.

Fortunately for me, I’ve never been cheated on. Still, I wonder if I would want to know if my partner cheated on me. On the one hand, not knowing. Ignorance is bliss, as they say. But on the other hand, I would also hope my partner respected and loved me enough to disclose that kind of information to me.

I think if it were a one-off cheating situation, I would want to work things out with him. But of course, it depends on the circumstances. If the cheating were something that happened again and again, I don’t think I would be able to forgive him. In my opinion, it’s morally wrong and just downright unacceptable.

Either way you look at it, cheating sucks. And if I cheated on my partner? Well, I think I’d definitely tell him, because if I cheated, it would mean the relationship wasn’t working and that’s something worth talking about.

Here are eight people who felt they had to tell their partners about their infidelity:

There are the cheaters who told their partners because they knew they deserved better:

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This girl, on the other hand, felt no remorse whatsoever:

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There were the people who told their partners but would do anything to take it back:

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And the cheaters who are surprised at what their partners think of cheating in the first place:

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There are those who aren’t sure why they did it at all:

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There’s the guy who probably regrets ever having told his girlfriend:

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And there are the people who just don’t feel anything:

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Here’s What Happened When 8 People Told Their Partners They Cheated

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This Is How To Successfully Have Sex With A Small Penis

I was looking through Reddit the other day when I came across this post about a girl who was trying to improve her sex life with her not-so-well-endowed boyfriend. Read it for yourself here:

[Small dick] My [19F] bf [19M] has a small dick. How do we go about having better sex? from sex

You get the picture. This girl seems to really like her boyfriend. She wants to make it work. And, just as you would hope a guy wouldn’t leave you because your boobs were too small, we should hope she wouldn’t end things with a guy because he wasn’t well-endowed enough for her.

So she did what any modern person with a question too embarrassing and too niche to ask their friends does, she took her question to Reddit. As you can see by her update, people apparently gave some killer advice.

I took out some of the best snippets here for you to muse over. I even made it super easy and organized for you and organized it by position. I know you guys, I’m the best. OMG, stop gushing. YOU’RE WELCOME.

Try cowgirl.

Cowgirl was BY FAR the most popular suggestion from people across the board. Even if they were suggesting other positions, they seemed to refer back to cowgirl as a trusty staple. So, if you’re looking to play it safe, go for these tips.

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Try using props.

If you’re not too intimidated by them, you can follow the lead of the people who said that using their own respective props really helped them spruce things up in the bedroom.

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Try scissoring… yes, scissoring.

Yeah so… I guess guy/girl scissoring is actually a thing.

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Try putting your legs above his shoulders.

If you’ve got the flexibility for it, putting your legs above his shoulders is supposed to do wonders.

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Try placing a pillow under your hips.

If you’re more of a fan of having him on top, putting a pillow under your hips should be able to do just the trick.

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And there you have it, ladies and gents. A small dick does not have to be the end for your relationship. Try out some of these handy tips and work with what you’ve got.

This Is How To Successfully Have Sex With A Small Penis

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5 Reasons You’re Actually Lucky If You’ve Never Been In A Relationship

As the saying goes, “There’s a silver lining in every cloud.”

For the most part, I usually think of my perpetual singledom as a bad thing, but sometimes when the air is just right, I get in a reflective mood. It’s a mood where I see the bright side of everything. One advantage I think I have over my more romantically functional friends is I don’t have an ex … and it’s glorious!

Here are a few reasons why:

1. No gut-wrenching social media posts

Can we all agree on something? Facebook reminders are the worst. They should be renamed “reminder of a time in your life when you were happier.” If pictures of dead relatives and pets weren’t bad enough, the fine folks at Facebook love to remind you that the former love of your life is now just a bittersweet memory.

A filter feature has since been added to allow the blocking of certain people, but we all know the temptation of social media stalking looms large. I don’t have such problems; I can cruise through my timeline with a clear heart and conscious, the way Mark Zuckerberg and those guys he allegedly stole Facebook from intended to.

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2. No avoiding people

I can’t tell you how many people I know who are actively avoiding a run in with their ex. The number isn’t high, I just have a bad memory… but seriously, it’s really too many. It feels so good not to constantly be looking over my shoulder, or not going to my favorite pizzeria, just because I may run into a former partner. It’s better than sex … well, at least it’s better than bad sex.

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3. No Comparison

Like Taylor Swift, I have a blank space … but alas, I have no name to write. But we’re looking on the bright side here — or at least we’re trying to. One good thing about not having an ex lies in the future.

Whenever I do start talking to someone, I won’t have the cloud ex hanging over me, no one to pit my new lover against. I’ll never say, “I wish she dressed like my ex”; “I wish she smiled like my ex”; “I wish she crafted well thought out ‘Game of Thrones’ fan theories like my ex.”

See, once we start comparing old loves with new loves, the slope becomes very slippery. But on the real, I would love to go out with a woman who has some good “Game of Thrones” fan theories. I need something to pass the time now that season 7 is delayed.

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4. No Scar Tissue

It’s no secret. Having an ex can be emotionally damaging. The Red Hot Chili Peppers were right as far as breakups go; it’s a lonely view. Unfortunately in this life, most suffer the pain of failed love. It’s simply the name of the game.

Not having an ex means that I am a blank slate — free of emotional damage… well, “ex” related emotional damage. I’m emotionally damaged… but for other reasons… hey, at least it’s not from a former love… I’m trying to look at the bright side here, help me out.

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5. No Bad Habits

Unless you’re Apollo Creed, bad habits are hard to break. When you have an ex, sometimes their bad habits rub off on you. Whether it’s smoking, excessive drinking or even worse: cynicism.

As humans, it’s often easier for a person’s bad qualities to rub off on us rather than their righteous ones. When you don’t have an ex, all your bad qualities are organic and homemade! The way nature intended! It’s like the Whole Foods of emotions.

5 Reasons You’re Actually Lucky If You’ve Never Been In A Relationship

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If You Order This Type Of Food On A First Date, He’ll Probably Like You More

Deciding what to order on a first date is stressful.

This is especially true if you’re like me, and what you actually want to order is usually the most expensive item on the menu and/or something giant and messy that will probably end up smeared across your face.

But what is the right thing to order? Like, if I get a salad, I’m a basic bitch. But if I order a double cheeseburger with bacon, he’s going to think I’m disgusting. And if I order the chargrilled octopus, I look like a douche.

THERE’S NO WINNING.

Well, actually, a new study conducted by a team of researchers from the University of Chicago proves there actually is something you can order that will guarantee you some points in your date’s book.

It turns out, the best way to make your date like you more is to — drumroll, please — copy them. Yep, you read that correctly. Copy them. Throw all of that garbage your mom told you about being yourself out the window and order a similar meal.

Through a series of tests — ranging from whom participants were more likely to trust with their money all the way to whom participants were more likely to engage in business negotiations with — the study’s findings proved people were more likely to trust and enjoy the company of people who ordered similar foods as them.

In a statement, one of the study’s co-authors, Ayelet Fishbach, explained that although human beings tend to believe logic guides the majority of their decision-making, the fact of the matter remains that food preferences really do influence our thinking.

Fishbach, a professor in the business school at the University of Chicago, continued,

On a very basic level, food can be used strategically to help people work together and build trust.

And this sort of trust-building based on food preferences isn’t just limited to first dates. No, researchers believe this can be extended to early friendships, blind dates and even co-workers.

This all being said, I’m a big believer in being yourself. If your date is ordering a double cheeseburger and you really do want him to like you, but you’re both gluten-free and dairy-free, don’t torture yourself. The right guy will like you no matter what you order.

If You Order This Type Of Food On A First Date, He’ll Probably Like You More

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50 Thoughts That Run Through Your Mind When Buying Your First Strap-On

The other day, my friend Layla* sent me a text message out of the blue.

“Zara, I’m about to buy my first ever strap-on with my new girlfriend! I’m terrified!” she wrote. I could feel her urgency penetrate my cell phone.

“Amazing! Congrats!” I responded, trying to emulate pure sweetness through the staleness of airwaves. I knew she needed my support, and I was going to give it to her.

“ZARA, I’m freaking out! I’m too nervous to buy a bra, let alone a dildo,” she responded back at the speed of wild fire.

“It’s a rite of passage! You’ll be fine, plus they’re super sweet at the sex shop,” I typed back.

“Ugh, what if I pick out the Lilly Pulitzer print one?”

“DON’T PICK OUT THE LILLY PULITZER ONE!” I wrote, hoping she would understand how dire the situation really was. Wait a minute: They don’t even make Lilly Pulitzer printed dildos, do they? Southern ladies would lose their minds (but probably secretly order one when their sexless husbands went to sleep).

However, I felt bad for my dear, newly out friend Layla. Because Layla was in the middle of a total WASP crisis. She was having an Ivy League, former sorority girl meltdown. She had to go into a sex shop (gasp) with her girlfriend (“You’re a lesbian, too” my inner WASP was taunting her) and buy a dildo and a strap-on (enough to send my inner WASP into a frenzy of Valium and martinis).

If I could’ve held Layla’s hand and walked her through the sex shop and guided her through the process of buying her first strap-on, I promise you, girl, I would have. But, I couldn’t. That’s because a) her girlfriend wouldn’t have appreciated it, and b) it’s something every lez must do by her lonesome, without the help of her lesbian big sister/tour guide.

You know that old proverb, “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime?” It’s the same thing when buying a strap-on. Buy a girl a strap-on, and she’ll have a strap-on for one relationship. Let a girl buy her own strap-on, and she’ll have strap-ons for a lifetime.

Wow, that was beautiful, if I do say so myself. Wildly poetic. It’s poetic Wednesday, just in case you didn’t know, sweet kittens. And what’s more poetic than a dildo strapped inside an Italian leather harness? Nothing.

However, I’ll confess, I’ve been right where Layla is. In fact, one of my dearest friends was with me when I purchased my first strap-on, and I was a hot mess. A chic European lady sold it to me and loudly informed me (and the room) “it could be packed in” my pants. That way, I could “keep it on throughout the day and have sex with [my] girlfriend whenever.” I nearly died from embarrassment.

But once I ripped that Band-Aid off, it became as easy as buying shoes, only better. Because while I love shoes as much as the next mascara lesbian, shoes don’t give you orgasms. Sex toys do.

Here is the emotional roller coaster all girls go through when buying their first strap-on with their partners:

1. Is this even the right store? It looks too pretty to be the right store. Are sex stores supposed to be this civilized-looking?
2. Well, there is a leather harness in the window, and a neon sign that says “XXX.” This must be the right store.
3. I can do this. I can go in. I’m a sex-positive feminist.
4. I’m taking ownership of my sex life, like the strong woman my mother raised me to be.
5. Ew. Why am I thinking about my mother when I’m buying a strap-on? I need therapy.
6. OK, is my girlfriend OK?
7. And we’re walking in.
8. She’s totally done this before.
9. Ugh, she’s totally going to know this is my first time buying a strap-on. WHY AM I BEHIND ON EVERYTHING IN LIFE?
10. Oh shit, she looks nervous. She’s looking at me to ask the salesgirl to lead us to the strap-on section. She’s acting submissive.
11. Wait, am I going to be wearing it?
12. Am I TOP?
13. I’m totally a TOP!
14. OK, this is a lot of pressure, but I think I can handle it.
15. My mother always told me I was a natural-born leader.
16. WHY AM I THINKING ABOUT MY MOTHER AGAIN? I need a hotline or something.
17. Oh, and the salesgirl is coming up to us, and she’s smiling a little too big.
18. She can totally tell this is my first time.
19. If the salesgirl can tell this is my first time, my girlfriend can tell this is my first time and I’m supposed to be a power top, then what the hell do I do?
20. Just breathe. OK, she’s leading us to the harnesses and asking if we want leather.
21. Of course we want leather. What does she think I am, a savage? Do I look like the kind of girl who would wear pleather?
22. Oh, this leather is buttery.
23. Oh, this isn’t so bad. It’s sort of like buying really nice leather boots, except…
24. I’ll use it to have sex with my girlfriend.
25. “We’ll take one of those. The finest Italian leather you have, honey.”
26. On to the dildo… We got the harness part down, so the rest should be a breeze.
27. OH MY GOD, THESE DILDOS LOOK TOO REAL. WHY DO THEY HAVE VEINS?
28. I might have thrown up in my mouth a little bit.
29. Is my girlfriend into the realistic-looking dildo?
30. Is my girlfriend straight? Does she wish I had a dick?
31. Do I wish I had a dick?
32. OK, breathe. She’s showing us some pink ones. I can get down with a pink dildo.
33. My girlfriend wants a purple one. I hate purple, but at least she doesn’t want a flesh one.
34. OK, lez walk to the register.
35. I’m such a badass. I’m a real lesbian now, baby. I’m buying my first strap-on.
36. Wow, this is really a moment with my girlfriend. This is so romantic.
37. Should I tell her I love her?
38. I know it’s only been three dates, but I think I might love her.
39. Oh, it’s time to pay.
40. It costs $550?! What the hell? I could buy, like, six pairs of Dr. Martens boots for that.
41. Screw the fine Italian leather. I’ll take the pleather.
42. Oh, but my girlfriend looks so happy… She doesn’t deserve pleather.
43. Shouldn’t we split this?
44. Is it rude for me to ask her to split the strap-on with me?
45. Shit. Do I have time to transfer funds, at least? I can’t ask her to split the strap-on because I just realized I LOVE her.
46. Maybe I should ask her to move in with me? This is a big step.
47. OK, let’s pray my credit card goes through.
48. God, I promise I will start believing in you if my credit card goes through.
49. HOLY SHIT, I JUST BOUGHT A STRAP-ON.
50. HOLY SHIT, NOW I HAVE TO ACT LIKE I KNOW HOW TO USE IT?

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50 Thoughts That Run Through Your Mind When Buying Your First Strap-On

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